Yes, plenty of people just wonder the question honestly, because they are dumbfounded over meeting a real life woman who has carried a baby for someone else. It's a fictional novel, or a news blip from across the country, at most, to many peoole. But sometimes, that question comes with subtly different undertones...
'Are you only doing this because you want to be pregnant so bad
and you can't because your husband won't let you?'.
Other times it sounds like 'obviously it wasn't as bad for you as it was for me'.
And still others, I can already hear the next question: money.
Well, the answer isn't a simple yes or no. It is most certainly both. My pregnancies were healthy, but I wouldn't call them easy. I've spent many months sick. Very sick. Like esophageal damage, couldn't eat anything but Cream of Wheat, sick. And yes, I did it again. And again.
And again, for someone else. Yes, I was still a puker by the fourth time. And yes, I'm pregnant again, for someone else, by choice. And no, if it was about money, it wouldn't be worth it.
Everything in life is a trade off. For my months spent memorizing the inside of so many toilets, I was blessed with 3 amazing children. And my life has been permanently and profoundly touched by surrogacy. Nothing worth doing is all sunshine and rainbows, right? I love being pregnant because it feels indescribable to know you are creating and supporting a life that otherwise would not exist.
I am not a woman of many talents. I can't perform surgeries or create healing art. I can't dance or sing or even juggle. I can, however, help make a family. So no, I don't 'just love' being pregnant. It's hard much of the time. In some ways, a surrogate pregnancy can be even harder than a natural pregnancy of your own. I do, however, just love that I have found my method of making the world a better place. Of giving. Of loving.