I do have a wonderful surrogacy update. This week we had "the big anatomy scan" to check on the baby and I'm so happy that both of the intended parents were able to be there for it! The ultrasound itself was about 45 minutes and I am very happy to report that everything looked great. The little bugger is still breech, but I was surprised to hear that his measurement is right on track for gestation. During my first surrogacy, this was the ultrasound where we had the alarm of seeing how much bigger the baby was measuring than expected. I was so relieved to see that we are looking right on track at the moment. They also used ultrasound to measure my cervix and just be sure that there is no sign of thinning early, which could pose a risk of preterm labor. Good news there as well, since I am measuring even thicker than the range they hope to be within. I saw the genetic counselor again at this appointment, so the parents could ask any questions of her. We did do another genetic test after the first tri screening, which is a non invasive genetic screening - just some blood work. Intended mom would just like to have that peace of mind that every test has been promising.
When we finished at maternal fetal medicine, we drove right to the hospital for a tour. I'm really glad the parents got to at least see where they would be going, and get a feel for how things would go when it's delivery time. It was mostly a refresher for me, since I've already delivered 2 out of 4 babies there so far, and the last one wasn't even 2 years ago yet. It is a good hospital and I think our intended mom, especially, can feel a little more reassured now that everything is going to be well handled. It also got the conversations started about whether the parents would like me to provide breast milk, and at what point they are going to come to the area for the birth. We know from my history that if they aren't in the area when labor starts, there's practically no chance they will get there in time. So those are definitely things they are going to need to consider and start planning for.
It was also really great that my kids got to meet the intended parents during this quick visit. They've been through this before and they completely understand that we aren't having another baby in this family, but it's still solidifying to be able to say THESE are the baby's parents so my kids can really put it all together. They were real troopers about waiting around for those long appointments, too, especially with one of my boys not feeling 100%.
I'm still in the 'one check up per month' stage right now so I don't have any news since the last one, but I think I'll be moving up to twice a month in the next couple weeks. It will also be time to go for the 3D ultrasound in a few weeks. I am going to try to get an OB appointment on the same day, and the intended parents said they would love to join me for those if the scheduling works out. It might take me a few back and forth phone calls to find a date that works for me, the OB, the ultrasound place, and the IPs - but I sure hope we figure it out! They will get a dvd and pictures from the ultrasound, of course, but it would obviously be so much better if they got to see it in person.
In the meantime - here is what 19 weeks is looking like: